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The Four Horsemen of Relationships
The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse is a metaphor depicting the end of times in the New Testament; the Four Horsemen of Relationships is used to describe communication styles that, according to research, can predict the end of a relationship.
Why are Relationships so Hard?
“There is no secret to a long marriage – it’s hard work … it’s serious business, and certainly not for cowards.”
Ossie Davis
Relationship needs maintenance. Think about your car or the lawn mower of any other appliance, what happens if you don’t maintain them? They break down! It’s the same with relationships. Do the work and your reward is a happy, healthy, nurturing and long-lasting relationship.
The Importance of Listening in Your Relationship
We all know about the importance of listening in our relationship – and yet we still don’t listen when we should!
When we intellectually know something is both necessary and important, but we still choose to not pay much attention to it, that means there’s not enough perceived benefit to do it differently.
That’s human nature. Doing something because we “should” do it rarely works.
In our relationships, here’s what that looks like:
We know we “should” listen better to our partners … but we don’t.
Breaking the Silence: Men as Victims of Domestic Abuse
Domestic abuse is a deeply concerning issue that affects individuals of all genders, and while the majority of reported cases involve women as victims, it is important to acknowledge that men can also be victims of domestic abuse. This article aims to shed light on this under-discussed topic, explore the challenges men face in seeking help, and provide support resources for male victims. It is crucial to recognise that addressing domestic abuse requires a gender-inclusive approach, and male victims should not be overlooked or marginalised.
When a Relationship is Tested
When a Relationship is tested … what next?
Life has many ways of testing a person’s will, either by having nothing happen at all or by having everything happen all at once.” Paulo Coelho
A worldwide pandemic …
A child struggling …
An affair discovered …
Words spoken that we can’t take back …
Words that should have been spoken, but never were…
These tests are giving us important information about where a relationship is vulnerable and where it needs some attention. The questions are: Will we listen? and, What will we hear?
Active Listening for Better Relationships
Communication specialists, relationship counsellors, and other experts always tell us to “engage in active listening” to better connect with our partners, children, bosses, and just about anyone else.
But what is active listening, and how can we become better at it?
Active listening requires that the listener fully concentrate, understand, respond and then remember what is being said by another person. Here’s how to do it.
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